Social Network Rehab...

Social Networks...

I'm guilty of it. Post in line, post in traffic, post at dinner, post while talking, post at the airport, post while working out, post while shooting, post while shopping, post while pooping, message back within seconds feeling it's critical when it's not, accepting a friend request at a family gathering... when did I make social networking such a priority? Spewing mindless information, sharing intimate ones, promoting what I do, promoting what I enjoy... when does it become consuming? When does one really find a balance?Can you too turn it off and enjoy the quiet? I can't but honestly, I'm learning how to do it.

Does the universe think it's necessary for one to post every waking moment? Nope..
Is it critical to share every part of you? Nope..

What I learned this month? Guess what, like emails, the sense of urgency is uncalled for and answering when you can well... it actually works! No one is disappointed if you respond 24 hours later.

Practicing putting my phone in my purse for the night or hiding it at a meal or keeping it in my gym bag is a start. I don't want my phone to be attached to my hip. It should be an accessory used for select purposes since how can you really stay focused with what goals you want to achieve? You know what, it feels great to hide my phone and better when I see that I am accomplishing more without having to know what everyone is doing or letting everyone know what I'm doing.

Mind you this is all an observation and I'm sharing with you what I see a problem in myself as well as other people. The phone is a drug and social networks are a drug...it's definitely all an overdose for me and as I work on my farmer's tan and just play in the dirt this month, my social network rehab therapy is showing positive results

Some thoughts...

We all carry a personae which we love everyone to see. The personae wants to be accepted, loved and admired. Some personas are real while others are masked or masked over years of masking. I love what Dia Zerva has become but in my time off to just get life organized and slow down a busy travel, shooting and wrestling schedule, I realize that I have been masking a lot behind Dia and that's not cool one bit. My job is to perform and in order to perform like any job, you need a balance aka have work hours and take time to not be Dia or XXX or whatever job title/name. How many performers just call themselves their performer name 24/7 and forget their legal name? How many non-industry professionals go home and still be the doctor or the nurse or the cop or the accountant? Is that healthy? How many forget that? Do social networks help one to punch out the time card every day? I'm not writing this to soap box, just using my blog as I a place I just spew everything. Perhaps when I finish this entry there will be more logic. Perhaps you can learn from my mistakes. Or at least have a laugh because you can relate.

As I ween off my addiction to social networks and check timelines less often, the times I read a username's timeline I start to question a lot of why they are posting and sometimes I feel like it's all high school again. Posting messages on success, updates, silly observations are great, but posting things to get attention, well it makes me want to log off forever. BUT that's a select few. Not everyone is like that. So I just ignore it since if you acknowledge it the reaction is on you. Turning off attention seekers is just as challenging as clocking out of social networks.

Everything in life is in your life because you allow it. I decided to allow more of a routine in my work life and have a personal life to get back to playing guitar, training for runs, and carving a shark out of a watermelon.

So as you enjoy your Monday, consider rehab from social networks... write a postcard to a friend, cook from scratch, call don't text, and enjoy the outdoors notification/ring tone free... and when you dine with company do not keep your phone on the table. The messages and/or notifications can wait 45minutes as you enjoy your coffee and have a face to face LOL!

xoxo
Dia aka -_ _ _ _